Loving Yourself and Others


Have you heard the phrase, “You can’t love others until you love yourself?” Self love is a must, because we treat others the way we treat ourselves. How kind and forgiving are you to yourself? 90 % of us suffer from lack of self love. We beat ourselves up when we don’t meet our expectations.

Have you or someone you know ever wondered why they attract controlling or abusive people into their lives? We are all each other’s reflections – so to speak. If you are not kind to yourself, you will tend to attract people who are not kind to you. Before attracting a new partner or healing old relationships, take a look at how you treat and love yourself. Once you allow yourself to be open to unconditional love – you will stop attracting people that reflect that.

Bashar, a channel says, “If you desire to give unconditional love, how can it be unconditional if you are not included?” The definition of unconditional love is, affection given without any limitations. Bashar adds, “What you call in your frequency unconditional love, is actually the frequency or vibration of existence itself.” Simply by allowing ourselves to love ourselves, we stop treating others poorly and stop attracting those who don’t have our highest intentions in their best interest.

Many of us have been raised to think with our brain instead of our hearts. Our heart receives 10,000 times more electrical signals than our brain. Drunvalo Melchizedek says that we need to make a conscious decision to move down from the brain into the heart. Deep breathing is a great way to calm the spirit and get back to our heart space.

In the Melody Crystal Healing Classes, students learn a technique called, “Tibetan Pulsing.” During chakra balancing with stones, we pulse our hands on each chakra to the same rhythm as the client’s heartbeat. This has great benefits in bringing someone closer to their heart space.

Using stones and affirmations can be very beneficial in helping one to release issues and limiting beliefs on self love. Rose Quartz, Rubellite, Ruby, Kunzite & Citrine are beneficial stones for clearing old, self limiting beliefs, strengthening our self love and for opening our heart chakras so that we receive more love. Keep the stone close in your aura for 30 days; every time you say your affirmation, hold the stone in your hand, putting pressure on it which instills your intention.

Since our thoughts create our realities, it’s beneficial to use positive self love affirmations such as; “I am love.” ” I allow myself to receive the love I deserve.” “Thank you. I love you.” Try taking three deep breaths, relaxing deeper with each breath. Hold the stone at your heart chakra, visualizing you and your aura being bathed with the stone’s soft, gentle pink and gold light.

Set your intention by asking your angels/and or guides to help open and heal your heart chakra. This will help release all limiting beliefs and help you to be receptive to loving yourself more deeply. Stay in this space, bathed in these colors for up to a 1/2 hour everyday until you feel it is no longer needed.

Continually repeat your affirmation while focusing on breathing deeply and bringing the pink, gold colors of pure love into your heart. After you have successfully included yourself in the circle of unconditional love, notice the people changing in your life and who you are now attracting. Ask yourself, “What would unconditional love do?”

Jennifer Vanderwal

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Jennifer Vanderwal has been a Melody Crystal healing instructor since 2004. She’s a Master of the Usui Tibetan Karuna Seiryoku system of Reiki since 1999. She offers classes in crystal healing and reiki. Her therapies include crystal healing facilitator and spiritual counselor. 248-672-0579 or quartzcrystal420@yahoo.com. She teaches classes and offers chakra balancing with gemstones and Crystal Healing Sessions at Bodyworks Healing Center, 734 416-5200, www.bodyworkshealingcenter.com.


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