Forgiveness is an important part of healing, not just for ourselves but also for others that are involved. Not dealing with forgiveness can lead to self- hatred, and resentment toward others. If this is not dealt with, it can cause disease. When I recommend that people need to forgive in order to heal themselves, I often hear them say, “How can I forgive someone for doing this to me?”
Understanding is a great key to knowing why people choose to act in certain ways. It can be easier to start with the person’s actions first, then work on forgiving the person. Understanding helps us see learned behaviors. Life-old ingrained patterns make people act that way; they don’t know any other way than what they were taught and how they were raised.
A simple, effective forgiveness technique that works well on many levels is imagining that you and the other person are sitting across from each other. Say, “I acknowledge myself for being a co-creator in this situation. I love myself; I accept myself as co-creator of this situation. I love myself. I forgive myself for co-creating this situation. I love myself. I release this situation and let it go now.”
Then say, “I acknowledge the other person’s name for co-creating this situation. I acknowledge myself for co-creating this situation. I love you. I love myself. I accept you for co-creating this situation. I accept myself for co-creating this situation. I love you. I love myself. I forgive you for co-creating this situation. I forgive myself for co-creating this situation. I love you. I love myself. I release this situation and let it go now.”
Specific crystals can be used to help us forgive, heal and open our hearts. Squeeze one in your hand while doing the forgiveness affirmations.
Kunzite, high in lithium, reinstalls a joy and gratitude for life, aligns heart, throat and third eye chakras, heals and opens the heart, and strengthens self and universal love, loving actions and thoughts.
Rhodochrosite heals wounds, purifies and energizes our base, sacral and heart chakra, and pulses love to everyone and thing.
Dioptase clears and stimulates all our chakras; it’s a potent healer and alleviator of pain and is a stone of forgiveness. It cleanses our hearts of old resentment and guilt, bringing clarity and understanding.
Pink and green tourmaline: green tourmaline helps us see and come from our heart space with compassion; it opens our heart chakra and third eye chakra, strengthening our visionary capabilities.
Pink tourmaline stimulates the heart and crown chakra bringing about joy, peace, and higher levels of love.
Emerald opens, stimulates and activates our heart, creating harmonious lifestyles.