by Eve Wilson
In relationships, people are instinctually drawn into partnership with those who provide a balance to their own strengths and weaknesses. This is nature’s way of helping parents have all the necessary ingredients for survival. So, if one person is weak in a particular way, they will tend to attract a mate with the strengths they lack and which complement or complete their own. You’ve heard the phrase “opposites attract”. This is why.
Strangely, this is often the opposite of what we think we are seeking. With conscious intent, most people are looking for someone who is like themselves. So, people often wonder why they inadvertently choose people so different for their committed relationships. The answer is that this is our unconscious way of seeking wholeness.
Wholeness of self is the way to have the kind of relationships we desire, and fortunately, that is the direction of evolution on Earth at this time. We are currently ascending into the wonderful partnership between our human selves and our Higher Selves, which makes us whole. When we are whole, we attract a partner who is likewise whole.
This new state of wholeness brings a deep sense of security. What we need begins to flow from our Higher Selves into our lives and draws to us the support we require from the world. This unified manifesting of life’s needs is co-creation.
Focusing on this inner wholeness, we are increasingly able to accept limitations of our partners and other significant relationships because they no longer hurt us as deeply. We feel more whole and successful in meeting our own needs and can release the belief that others should do that for us. Most people have enough trouble understanding and providing for their own needs, let alone someone else’s.
As we become more whole, balanced, and wholly fulfilled within ourselves, the others in our lives can begin to show up as more balanced and whole within their selves. They may begin to change, too!
It was previously so rare for people to change. You either accepted someone as is or you tried to change them, only to create more conflict. You learned to tough it out, trying not to be resentful, or you moved on. But now, if we want our significant other to change, we can work to grow stronger where we have been weak. This alters the “attraction of opposites” dynamic and opens new possibilities for them to grow, too. If that doesn’t work, we are in a position to attract a different dynamic with another.
Growing whole is a spiritual path. It isn’t enough to just take care of physical needs, though that is a part of being whole. Since we are eternally spiritual beings and only temporarily human beings, focusing on our spiritual nature is an essential element.
For me, spiritual growth is an inside job. It isn’t a hobby or a religion; it is a return to true identity. Here is a statement of true self that might help you understand this:
“I am an essential facet of the great Oneness of All that many call God. I am unique and indispensable. No one is better or worse than me. We are each an essential piece of that Oneness, fulfilling our role within the drama of our world. But who I am is much more than the role I am playing in this lifetime.”
As we ascend into unity with our Higher Selves, we begin to discover how much more we are within our wholeness. We begin to integrate that larger self into our human experience, and this is where we find the wholeness and fulfillment needed for our satisfaction and success in life and relationships.
Now, as our world ascends, more and more people are going to be able to access their wholeness. And as we do this ourselves, others in our lives recognize the opportunity to do that also, in their own way and time. We may discover a new version of our relationships, reminding us of the sweetness and harmony we knew when we were first attracted to each other. Only now can it have greater maturity and more unconditional love. We will learn that our relationships are worthwhile, not because we need each other, but because we love each other. And awaken to a freedom to be ourselves with a new joyfulness and innocence between us.
Rather than opposites seeking wholeness through a partner, we become whole individuals, sharing our unique wholeness together. Then together we can co-create a better life and world.
My Monthlies Class Series and the First International Our World Ascension Event on October 18th are two of my many offerings to help you grow wholeness. Visit www.spiritualhealers.com to explore these for yourself! Blessings and love for your journey of healing and ascension, Eve Wilson.
