By Susan deCaussin
When life throws you a curveball, there’s a strange sense of satisfaction that can come from shifting blame and pointing fingers. Unfortunately, this is something that has been instilled in us by society. When we make someone else responsible for our issues, it frees us from taking responsibility for them. In this litigious world we live in, folks are basically encouraged to identify a guilty party and hold them responsible whenever things don’t go the way that they want. This is, however, a dangerous way to move through life.
Blaming the world for everything that you don’t like in your life has a nasty side effect. The result is built-up anger. Think about it, if you will. When you hold another party responsible for something, you’re basically saying that the other party took something away from you against your wishes. How could that not create anger and resentment within you? By looking at this scenario in a different way, I hope to impress you with a new perspective, which will result in a more peaceful way of thinking.
Remember that nothing in life has meaning until you give it. Nothing. I’m specifically talking about those things that we interpret as negative or bad in our lives. Now I could throw a bunch of sayings at you like “there’s an upside to everything”, but consciously choosing to interpret situations in a positive way is the first step in escaping the anger that comes with passing blame. There’s a whole process that comes into play when doing this, but basically, it’s about choosing to shift negative thoughts in a more productive and positive direction. Once you’ve started to seek the upside to situations, you’ll begin to see fewer aspects of your life as negative. You can actually begin to train your brain to seek the good in all circumstances by creating a habit of positive thought patterns. Additionally, with a strong Spiritual connection, you can trust that there are no punishments in life, only lessons that are meant to assist you in the ascension process.
By stubbornly refusing to let outside circumstances control your sense of happiness and contentment, you can purposely choose to maintain peace in your life. Even in the midst of total chaos, you still have a choice. You can decide to be at the whim of all that’s going on around you, like a leaf blowing in the wind, or you can embrace your power to react in a way that aligns with the peace found deep within you.
To summarize:
- First – Learn to label things in a more positive way. Seek the upside. Avoid falling into the feeling of being a victim when faced with adversities.
- Second – Trust and surrender. Know that everything that happens to you is truly for your highest and best, and not a punishment. Nothing happens TO you – it all happens FOR you!
- Third – Enjoy a sense of empowerment in knowing that your true power lies in your ability to choose how you’ll react to life in each and every moment. No matter what is happening around you, free will gives you permission to react in whatever way you choose. Choose the reaction that aligns with the peace within you.
When you stop blaming others, you’ll release a layer of anger from your life, elevating your overall vibration and increasing your peace. It’s much like forgiveness. You’ve probably heard the saying that forgiveness is not for the other party, it’s for you. Not allowing forgiveness to happen is like holding poison in your mouth and expecting it to affect the other person. In actuality, the only one it hurts is you! So, make a conscious choice every day to cultivate peace in your mind and heart by taking responsibility for the way you choose to react to the events of your life.
I wish you peace. Namaste’ Susan
