By Phil Rosenbalm
In his book The Success Principles, by Jack Canfield, co-creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series posits that many people believe that someone is responsible for filling their lives with continued happiness, exciting careers, blissful relationships, etc., simply because they exist. He states, “The real truth—and the one lesson this book is based on—is that there is only one person responsible for the quality of the life you live. That person is you.”
In 1953, Samuel Beckett wrote a play called “Waiting for Godot.” The play is about two individuals who are waiting for a person named Godot to come and “save them.” There is only one problem, Godot never shows up. If you are waiting for someone to appear in your life who will make your life wonderful, it will probably not happen. There is an excellent line in Poor Richard’s Almanac by Benjamin Franklin: “God helps those who help themselves.”
Unfortunately, taking 100% responsibility for everything you experience in life is not easy. It is extremely common to blame someone or something else for things in your life that you are not happy about. You may think you are taking complete responsibility for your life, but if you blame others for your problems, this is not the case.
Another common problem that often occurs is making excuses for not doing what would be in our best interest. You probably heard that Thomas Edison “failed” ten thousand times before inventing the lightbulb. However, when asked about this, he responded, “I have not failed 10,000 times–I’ve successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work.” Many people would have quit long before that.
Many good salespeople analyze why a sale did not materialize and then try to correct the situation to be more successful next time. It would be easy to find excuses for why the sale did not happen and continue floundering. Jack Canfield makes another good point in his book. He posits that outward circumstances are not the problem. It is one’s attitude and behavior that make the difference.
If you find yourself making excuses, blaming others, or not assuming responsibility for your life, it may be due to deep-seated subconscious beliefs that adversely affect you. If you have negative or self-defeating beliefs, it will be extremely difficult to assume full responsibility because you don’t believe you will succeed in your endeavors.
One way to help you overcome this problem is using hypnosis. Hypnosis can enable you to get in touch with the negative or self-defeating subconscious beliefs and then change them into much more positive beliefs. Hypnosis works. It is safe when done by a certified hypnotherapist, and you will never do anything that goes against your values or your moral beliefs. If you were ever asked to go against your core beliefs while in a hypnotic state, you would either not respond or would immediately come out of the hypnotic state. If you want to learn more about hypnosis or have a session, please call Phil Rosenbaum at 248-688-6469. Many people who experience hypnosis say they wish they had experienced it sooner. If you want greater control over your life, please consider hypnosis. You have nothing to lose and a great deal to gain.
