By Phil Rosenbaum
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I can’t do it?” The words “I can’t” are some of the most powerful words of negation. Perhaps you are settling for a job you don’t care for because you think you can’t get something better. Or maybe you are in a relationship that is not fulfilling, but you don’t think you can do better. Or maybe you think you can’t make a good income and are settling for less than you deserve. The problem is that you believe you can’t do better. If you want to be successful, you need to eliminate the “I can’t” belief.
Did you know that believing in yourself is actually a choice? Many people did not have positive and supportive parents or caregivers, and they came to believe they were not good enough or deserving of good things. One problem that often occurs is blaming parents or others for one’s lack of success. The problem with this is that if you blame others, you lose your power to change. If it is their fault, they have to change in order for your life to get better. However, even if they changed, your life would not significantly improve. What is required is for you to accept that you are responsible for your life and that you are the only one who can make your life joyful and have the successful life you desire.
You need to come to believe that you can do anything you set your mind to do. Of course, this doesn’t happen overnight. It takes work. There are things you can do to help you develop this “can do” attitude. The use of positive visualization and positive self-talk can make a huge difference in how successful you become. Proper training and practice are also necessary.
A professional tennis player went to see a sports psychologist because every time his game went into overtime, he lost. The psychologist had him continually affirm, “I love tiebreakers,” every day. After only a few short months, he began to start winning when his game got to a tiebreaker. This is a powerful demonstration of the strength of affirmations.
A number of years ago, some researchers wanted to find out what professional tennis players were thinking when they played in tournaments. The researchers attached recording devices to some of the players and asked them to say whatever they were thinking during the matches. What they found was that the top players were always positive. If they made a good shot, they would praise themselves, and if they missed a shot, they would think, “Let it go.” They never doubted themselves or thought, “I can’t.”
Sometimes our negative beliefs are very deep-seated, and it is necessary to get outside help. This is where counseling or hypnotherapy can be very helpful. With hypnosis, one can find out where the negative messages originated and begin to realize they are inaccurate. The individual is then able to replace the deep-seated negative beliefs with much more positive beliefs and start to believe “I can” do whatever it is he or she wants to achieve.
If you would like to learn more about hypnosis or experience a hypnosis session, please call Phillip Rosenbaum at 248-688-6469. Learn about the various ways hypnosis can be of benefit. And if you find yourself thinking, “I can’t,” and using affirmations and visualization is not turning things around, please consider the use of hypnosis. A great deal of professional research has demonstrated that hypnosis is safe and effective. Don’t let the belief “I can’t run your life.