By Susan deCaussin
Have you ever wanted to create change in yourself or your life? Did you feel you were doing everything possible to make it happen but weren’t seeing any results? It’s frustrating. And it happens to all of us, many times over, during our lifetimes. It can be something as simple as a desire to add more exercise into your day or finally clean out the garage that’s been buried in the junk for years. Individually, those things don’t seem difficult, but when all of your efforts aren’t fruitful, no matter how much you try, more than likely, it’s your belief system that’s holding you back. Confused? Let me explain.
All of your beliefs about who you are, what you’re worthy of, and what you’re capable of doing reside in your subconscious mind. This is the center that determines how you’ll react and respond to every event and circumstance in your life. And, it’s been formed by all of the experiences you’ve had and all of the information you’ve ever been exposed to. If your subconscious mind “believes” that you are unworthy of love, it will sabotage every effort you make to create a loving relationship with another person. If it “believes” that you could never incorporate a solid workout into your daily schedule, it will seek every obstacle to making that happen. So when it feels like you’ve logically done everything to change an aspect of your life, and you’re still running up against blocks, your belief system is likely standing in the way of making that happen. The good news is that although things may seem hopeless, you can rebuild your belief system to match your goals by shifting your thoughts to coincide with the changes you desire.
For just a moment, try this. I want you to think of your subconscious mind as a Genie in a lamp. If you truly believe that you will never be good enough at something (anything), Genie says, “Your wish is my command!”. It then goes about making sure that your life matches your belief. It will actually steer you toward failure in order to fulfill that prophecy. That said, what exactly do you believe about yourself, your life, and what you’re capable of doing? A quick way of checking is by monitoring your self-talk. Even when you don’t outwardly speak it, your life will mirror that image if your self-talk is negative and defeating.
Sometimes those limiting beliefs are formed in childhood. Hearing a parent or teacher tell you that you’ll never be good enough, smart enough, or attractive enough can cause a lifetime of self-defeating thoughts and actions, which can then leave you feeling incapable and undeserving. You may not have a conscious memory of the life events which imprinted your inner mind in this way, but over time those things become a part of your subconscious mind as beliefs – beliefs which can hold you back in life.
The beautiful thing is that you have the power to adjust and realign your belief system to bring about those things you seek in life. With proper direction, you can begin to overwrite the negative self-talk that’s holding you back by paying attention to and purposely shifting your thoughts. To take it one step further, a qualified and experienced Clinical Hypnotherapist can assist you in releasing the limiting thoughts and beliefs from the subconscious mind in order to start anew. I see this happen daily in my office as I watch clients regain control of their lives and find happiness. To learn more, call me for a free 15-minute consultation and see how Hypnotherapy can help you.
Susan deCaussin CHt