By Pauline Dettloff
I have been doing readings for over 30 years and noticed a pattern—women often don’t understand why their relationships end so quickly. The phenomenon called “ghosting” is becoming more commonplace. It’s often attributed to men; both men and women experience it. Many women don’t realize that even if they are sexy, beautiful, and seem to have it all together, they can still be ghosted, and it’s usually around two weeks into a relationship. When this happens, women often believe there’s something wrong with them. But the truth is, there’s nothing wrong with you—it’s more about your lifestyle.
Sometimes, when a man enters a woman’s life, she becomes excited. He says all the right things, wines, and dines her, and does everything possible to make her feel special. However, after a short while, he starts to observe her life more closely. He begins to question if he wants to be a part of it. It doesn’t matter how beautiful she is—if there’s too much drama or certain aspects of her life that don’t align with his expectations, he may decide to leave. It could be how she carries herself, keeps her home, or interacts with her family. Family, in particular, is a major factor; if he doesn’t like your family, he’s likely not sticking around.
It generally takes about two weeks for a man to decide if he truly wants to stay. Sexual chemistry also plays a role. If a man is genuinely into you, he’ll show it by treating you with respect and wanting you to be part of his life. After two weeks, he’ll know whether he sees a future with you.
A man once told me, “When I look at a woman, if I can sit across the table at breakfast and like what I see, I’ll stay.” A real man will stay because he loves you, but he won’t tolerate unnecessary drama. This underscores the importance of mutual respect in a relationship. It’s this respect that makes you feel valued and respected, which is crucial for a fulfilling relationship.
This all comes down to lifestyle changes as life moves forward. Men don’t care about the little things—like if we become vegetarian while they still love eating meat, or if we want to travel and they don’t. Often, after 30 years of marriage, we find ourselves stuck because the relationship has changed. The man who once courted you stops taking you out, stops planning adventures, and you feel blindsided by how things have shifted. It’s not meant to sound pessimistic, but it’s the truth.
In my 30 years of experience, I’ve seen so many unhappy, lonely women. This happens when you marry someone and give your life away, adopting a lifestyle that doesn’t feel like your own anymore. The same can be true for men. Once they marry, they sometimes feel controlled by their wives and lose their freedom.
As you approach the end of what was supposed to be 30 beautiful years of marriage, you may find yourself feeling lonely and unfulfilled. This isn’t what you signed up for—you signed up for happiness! All you really want is someone to be kind to you. So, the key is to look at your life and ask yourself: Would you want to live the life you are currently living? Because when someone enters your life, it’s not just about you anymore—it’s about your lifestyle. This self-reflection is a powerful tool that can empower you to make the necessary changes for a fulfilling relationship, putting you in the driver’s seat of your relationship destiny.
If you can find a man (or woman) who loves you and the lifestyle you offer, then you’ve truly got it all. This reiterates the potential for happiness in relationships, instilling a strong sense of hope and optimism about your future.
Pauline is one of Michigan’s top psychics. She knew by 12 that she would dedicate her life help people find answers, connect with loved ones, and find the joy in their life. She runs several psychic companies here in Michigan and still offers private readings, book a reading and find out more at www.michiganpsychicfair.org, and www.krystal-ball-online.com
