By Miche Lame
One of the things I’ve realized is what a lot of my clients do when they are feeling more centered and happy is that they tend to stop doing the things that have gotten them there and then wonder why they are back at square one.
First of all, once you stretch and achieve a goal, you rarely return to where you were originally; it just feels that way. Like a rubber band, once you stretch it, it always stays slightly larger than it was before. We are like that. I learned from concentration camp survivors that we can’t unlearn something we’ve learned; it stays in our subconscious or muscle memory (unless we become physically damaged in some way).
Life becomes a roller coaster or cycle of working on growing through an issue, achieving it, and then “falling asleep” at the wheel of life, and starting to sleepwalk, be on automatic, going back to your old comfortable selves before your achievement of working through an issue or gaining success toward your dream life. Humans tend to lose our intentions once we’ve achieved them.
When you find yourself back in your old patterns, you already know how to get back the success and achievement you had. You already know how to be successful! You don’t need to learn new stuff; you already know it, and if you are connected with your Higher Self or the Divine, you have a guide to cheer you on and remind you of your knowledge, lessons, and actions that previously brought you success!
You can remember the little things that got you to your success. Things like taking a few minutes to breathe deeply and say ten things you’re grateful for before getting out of bed. Or write in your journal for 5 minutes every day at the time you have scheduled for it. It could be doing yoga/exercise every morning for 30 minutes. Possibly like me and some of my friends, you take some time every day to watch or read something informative for self-growth. Or, it could be scheduling yourself for meditation (guided or not) every day.
It’s doing these little, simple things, or things like these, that work for you and help you be successful and doing them consistently every day so that over time, they become your habits, your new routine. These things can be individualized to you. I have a client who’s started up the habit of telling herself, “I have 5 minutes today to make one more phone call,” and has increased her business (and self-confidence, happiness) and surpassed her original goal in days. You can also look at your self-talk, making sure it’s positive.
You can change your life by yourself, with the actions that took you from feeling sad, lost, and anxious – wherever you were – to the joy, happiness, and success you always desired. All you need to do is keep doing the things that worked before to get you the original successful completion of your prior goals!
Love and Light,
Miche Lame’, M.A.L.L.P
