Forgiveness is Self Care for the Self


by Miche Lame

How often do we talk about caring for ourselves? Caring for the self comes in many guises. It can mean taking a walk in nature, having a bubble bath, baking for self or others – really, it’s individual. It’s a way we can ground and center, relax into ourselves.

Yet, one of the best ways of self-care is forgiveness. Forgiveness releases negative energy that you are holding against another, hurting you instead of them. And, it’s like that rotten apple in the bag affecting the other apples, and the rottenness grows. Only this “rottenness” grows within you, sapping you of your energy and focus, blocking the light from coming in and raising you up. That’s not to say we can’t feel angry, just work through it so it can be released.

It gets really easy when you KNOW that this is a holographic world and all hurt is temporary. That means, in a sense, the hurt never really occurred on a spirit level, the part of us that is eternal. The hurt just happened in this holographic dimension. When we play a video game, and our character is “hurt” or “killed,” this is a TEMPORARY situation. You, yourself, are not hurt or killed. Your character just goes on to its next life, or you create a new one. Same idea. Although, if someone has betrayed you, they still have to earn your trust back if they ever do. Forgiving is different from trusting.

Once we know that this world is a world of experiences with the physical and our spirits are safe, it’s so much easier to see things from an observer’s point of view. It’s like we are watching a movie, connecting with the hurt, and when the movie has moved on, so have we. We cry during movies, feel anger, hope, and cheer on the characters all at different times as the movie goes on, and when the movie is done, there may be a little emotion left, and by the next day, none. Because we stop taking the experience or situation personally, we let go of the emotions.

We can do the same in our life experiences. Some experiences are very traumatic, and the energy rests in our body, and those experiences usually involve physical harm or the death of someone. We can still forgive, sometimes with the guidance of our Higher Self, God, or a therapist; it just might take a little longer to access the emotions, especially if we’ve been overwhelmed and shut down for protection, to survive in a sense. We can still access them so we can heal and forgive, releasing ourselves from inner torment.

I know this seems simplistic, as does the phrase “Let go, Let God,” yet the more we forgive, the freer we are. We can more easily access our spiritual selves, our Higher Self, the Divine, and our guides, and be grounded when we have fewer blockages in our own energy from forgiving perceived wrongs.

Next time you are “hurt” emotionally, remember that forgiveness is the greatest self-care for the self.

Love and Light,

Miche Lame’, M.A.L.L.P


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