Can you remember a time when someone yelled at you, criticized you or told you that you weren’t good enough or you’ll never amount to anything? Can you remember how you felt? Do you remember feeling yourself shrivel up and that some part of you felt like it died. This is emotional abuse.
Two less frequent yet widely experienced forms of abuse are physical and sexual abuse. According to Colin Tipping, author of Radical Forgiveness, at least 1 in 5 people have been victimized by either physical or sexual abuse. Abuse touches everyone. We have all been a victim of a major altercation and many times on a more minor basis. And who did we blame for that experience? The perpetrator, of course. Because what happened to us is not right, we have to blame them because they were wrong.
But what does that have to do with your happiness and wellbeing now? It has everything to do with it.
The Victim Archetype Affects Everything
The victim archetype always pervades our consciousness. It is underplaying everything we do, think and feel. But for most of us, we are unaware. It is an unconscious filter by which we view life. It robs us of energy, joy and happiness. If you want more of what is good in life, then you must let go of your conscious and unconscious victimhood.
Victim consciousness is like a ball and chain we drag around everywhere we go. No matter where we go, it is always there. How do we break free? We need something so radically different, so powerfully transforming, so spiritually liberating, that we are literally set free from it.
It Takes Energy to Transform
It takes a great deal of energy to transform the victim archetype. It is an energy that is locked into place, frozen in time. And it needs to be set free. What are you willing to do? Are you willing to take this on? Are you willing to let go and forgive the past? Are you willing to set yourself free?
Many people play with forgiveness. They forgive on the surface but continue to maintain the victim mentality. This is not forgiveness. No one was set free since the victim energy remains. Can you feel it still stuck somewhere within your body? Take a few deep breaths and note where in your body the tenseness, anxiety, anger, shame or guilt resides. It is OK if you still wish to hold onto your story; it is perfect for you.
Open to a New Possibility
I just ask that you open to the possibility that there may be another way. A way to set you free, rather than keep you stuck in victimhood. What would happen if the perpetrator was really dancing with you? Not at the physical level, but at a spiritual level. That the two of you are dancing together to heal the victim archetype. Is it possible this could be going on without your conscious awareness? Can you open to that possibility? If you can get to that point, then you will be able to access the energy necessary to completely clear the deadening energy that is stuck within you.
Take another deep breath. How do you feel knowing there might be another way? If you feel light, free, excited, energized; then you are ready. You have already begun to let go. If you still feel angry, hurt, depressed guilty shameful, then it is likely you are not yet ready. When you are open to a new possibility, it is like unlocking the door to a room full of gold. You still have to push the door open and walk through but at least you have turned the key. If you don’t turn the key, you can never pass through and you will remain stuck where you are.
When you think back to a moment of abuse, how do you feel? Take a moment and breathe into it. Is there a time when you remember feeling that way before? And is there a time before that you remember feeling that way as well. Most people find that the feeling stays the same even though the event is different.
This is the key; the same energy is just being experienced in a different moment under different circumstances. When the energy was locked in place, through the law of attraction it continues to attract more of the same. You are forever stuck feeling the same energies of anger, regret, guilt, shame, unworthiness over and over again. This creates drama and suffering, limits your life and is the seed of illness. This is hell of earth. But you can be free of it.
Spiritual Forgiveness Sets Us Free
Freedom comes from forgiveness not necessarily at the physical level but at the energetic and soul level. Since so much energy is stuck and it is of a low vibration, it takes higher vibration energy to free us. This energy can be provided many ways but one of the most effective is through conscious breathing breathwork. Breathwork is especially effective since much of the energy that keeps you stuck in victimhood resides within your diaphragm and it is already suppressing your ability to breathe more fully. Even Colin Tipping recognizes this and uses breathwork in his own forgiveness workshops.
As we move forward into this new age of ascension, it is imperative we find a way out of the fear, out of the need to blame, out of our victimhood. Spiritual forgiveness is the key to set us free.