Do you know that research has shown that we tend to think in patterns that make us seem safe, secure? Research, as in, “The Intention Experiment” also demonstrates that what we think becomes our reality. In fact, someone (an unknown author) once wrote:
Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
So, to change your life for the better, become aware first of your emotions, and your thoughts that are attached to them. The stronger the emotion, the stronger that thought brings about an effect into your life.
The Law of Attraction states that, “Like attracts like.” I used to have a client that was in denial about her intense anger. She was so angry that she had gone through several therapist before seeing me. In session, she rarely admitted to anger; usually she called it “frustration,” and by the end of the session, wanted to be at “forgiving” without ever being honest with herself about how deep her anger ran. She was a very religious person and had the belief that she was a bad person if she was angry. Her body was literally in pain and breaking down. She’d already lost her adult children who had moved away as soon as they could, her husband was gone, she was never good enough for her mom, had lost her job and was now on disability. She was walking with a cane at the age of about 45.
One day, she found herself in my office stating loudly as she tried to get up from her chair, “I am so frozen in anger I can’t move.” Boy was she shocked! Here she had been denying her anger for years, and it all came out! At that point, therapy moved rather quickly as she identified her angry thoughts and worries, as well as her sorrow. She’d had many losses. At the end of therapy, she was off most of her meds, all her children were connecting with her, she’d gained some friends, and ran a small business out of her home. What a change! Just acknowledging her negative feelings and thoughts and doing the work to think more positively did all that!
So, I ask you, What are YOU angry about? Write those angry thoughts down. What worrisome thoughts do you have? What do you live in fear of? What thoughts do you have about relationships? Do you know that most single people I come into contact with have negative thoughts about relationships? Some of those thoughts might be: “I’ll never find someone,” “They’re all taken,” “I’m too old,” or “I’m not pretty/handsome enough,” “No body likes me.” You get the drift…. so be it… these people have made all these beliefs true! I have actually seen lonely people be flirted with and they didn’t notice! Did they not notice, or did their ego keep them “right,” or did they draw to themselves the experience they were believing in to their consciousness?
Any and all could be true! That is the power of your thoughts. Think about what a great life you could create instead!
What if every time you caught the thought, “Nobody likes me” you replaced it with, “Wait a minute, Ann and Carol like me, and so does my co-worker Carl.” Reality-test it, and replace the negative with a positive reality. You will attract more positive people to you, and you will be open to being friends with them. All it takes is the effort to identify the negative thought (and feeling), reality-test it in a positive way, replace it with the positive, and be open to change!
Yes, it is that easy to start living a magnificent life!
Love and Light,
Miche Lame’
