by Miche Lame
Knowing that this is the month of Mother’s Day has got me thinking and asking, “What is it about mothers that make us so passionate?”By passionate, I mean that no one triggers us more positively or negatively than our mothers of all the relationships in the world.
We start life inside our mother, often before she is even aware of our arrival. We depend on her as our incubator and experience everything she does – that means every event, interaction, emotion – every event in her life ties us closer to her. We are immersed in the nutritional (hopefully) chemical soup that feeds us. Some even believe we choose our mother before we are conceived biologically as the teacher we can learn most from and become self-actualized in this lifetime.
Whatever your beliefs, the relationship between mother and child is STRONG – even if they are not present in our lives. Mothers reflect how we perceive ourselves, providing nourishment for body, mind, and soul. A direct energetic, and genetic connection feeds us for good or ill. And science is now proving those connections.
So, is it any wonder that the deep love a mother has from the moment she discovers, and possibly before, that she is pregnant, that all through her life, she creates for her children this strong, energetic, and genetic pattern that can be our greatest safety, calm and peace, and at the same time be a trigger for an explosion?
Some of these explosions occur because moms are human too. They have their issues, fears, resentments, and stressors. They may also find it difficult when devoting their young lives to their children, filling a need to be needed and possibly having a loss of self-identity to enter a role of parent, to be able to perceive at all times that their child is now an adult and treat them as such. Thus, the unasked-for advice, opinions, judgments, etc., often trigger when you see yourself as an independent adult. You have a different agenda and path in life – and she may UNCONSCIOUSLY be living vicariously through you. Remember, it’s unconscious, so then she’s bewildered or angry, feels abandoned, rejected – the list goes on because unless we do the work, we all have wounded inner children within.
Be patient; connect with the compassion and love in your heart. She has issues too. And they often crash with yours. You can work through yours and then the script, the pattern of interaction is different, and she starts changing too. The energy of the relationship also changes; your vibration affects her as much or more than you allow hers to affect you.
If you would like some help resolving your issues and improving your relationship with your mom, please give me a call! In the meantime, have a blessed and wonderful Mother’s Day with possibly the most important person in your life – your mom, who loves you!
Love and Light,
Miche Lame’, M.A.L.L.P
